Please help me manage my anxiety in some way that does not involve medication or therapy. I have had huge anxiety my whole life. I think it runs in our family because my mother and grandmother were both very anxious and high strung. My worries are mostly about being loved, being alone and getting hurt. I have not been in a relationship for over three years and I feel like my anxiety is partly to blame. Please give me some ideas that don’t involve medications or therapy.
Quick: Living with anxiety sucks hugely. There is research to suggest that anxiety, like depression, runs in families. Your worries make me wonder about your history, specifically, your relationship history. How has love worked in your life? How does your family show love? Anxiety can be managed in a variety of ways, without medication and therapy, if necessary. Relaxation exercises, self-talk, yoga, meditation, exercise… the list is long. There are some wonderful self-help books for anxiety and phobias, too. The trick is to grow a tool kit of anxiety management strategies as sometimes different tools work better with specific situations.
Quack: No meds, no therapy….can I use my magic wand? Anxiety is a big word, it covers several disorders: post-traumatic stress disorder, panic disorder, obsessive-compulsive disorder, social anxiety and generalized anxiety disorder. How do you know you are anxious? Or did your grandmother and mother just tell you that you were anxious and it became part of the family story. The females are all anxious, high strung, nervous, and hysterical. Why is this a familiar pathology brand for women? Okay, I digress. There is some scientific evidence that anxiety is genetic, but there are probably some environmental factors that add to the mix. The topics of ‘love, being alone, getting hurt.’ are common themes. This is the Grand Trio of most people’s fears and worries. Soooo, start dating, practice deep breathing exercises, muscle relaxation, and engage in physical exercise. While dating, don’t act all desperate and needy or flighty and poised to run. Do something fun. Enjoy the path. Don’t fear the future.
Quick: So many questions on anxiety; I can’t help but believe that our high alert, post September 11, terrorism based world isn’t contributing to the uptick in worry. I want to produce “the top 50 strategies for managing anxiety” list, given that it seems more prevalent than ever before. I believe our technology allows us places to hide from our worries; this is good and bad. When we are off our devices, our fears come crashing back. It’s also so tempting to medicate our fears, bypassing the opportunity to learn some skills to manage anxiety.
Quack: Excellent idea, Dr. Quick. We must write the list. We have many questions from our readers related to anxiety. I believe a concise top 50 list would help lots of people. I know this is more prevalent in my practice; anxiety, global fears and despair at current international events. Let’s write!